“ Ropes to Our Past “

4.29.23

One of the biggest breakthroughs you can have when you’re one the verge of creating a new you or a new life, is letting go of regret. Regret to me has been seen as nothing but a rope to my past. There will always be should’ve, could’ve , and would’ve. It’s a hard thing to get past and it had me in my head all the time and gave me a lot of anxiety. That’s what regret creates, anxiety, which leads to fear. Fear of taking the next step. Fear that you’ll mess up again. You have to know that you are not that same person anymore. You have to forgive yourself and all the things you did or didn’t do. For all the things you said or didn’t say. For all the people you let go of or forgot to love. The only way to get past regret is to promise to make the old you proud. To promise to yourself that when that clean slate comes you will don’t revert back to that old way of thinking. When you decide to be different. To have a different life. You get to create completely different outcomes. Regret is inevitable. It’s going to happen. What a lot of people don’t realize is that regret is just a reminder of all of things in your past and distracting you from the things that the new you can do or say. Don’t keep yourself roped in. The truth is regret is a roadblock. I’m going to tell you like I wish I had someone tell me. There is nothing and I mean absolutely nothing you can do to take back the things you’ve done or said. Nothing that can be done to reverse the past. That’s just facts, but there is A LOT and I mean A LOT of things that this new you can do. There’s a quote by Lucille Ball, where she says “ I’d rather regret the I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done “ . Truthfully all of it should go out the window. When you’re hanging on to regret from the past you inviting more regret to possibly form from things you haven’t even gotten to do yet. Regret is based on anxiety and fear. You let regret go , you let those go too. Give yourself a break. You made a mistake. You said things you shouldn’t have said. You stayed silent when you should’ve spoke up. It’s okay. The more you hold on to the anger against yourself , the pain that you’ve caused other people, or the tears you saw fall caused by you. You have to tell yourself that it’s okay. The you that you are now has to come to terms with the past in order to move forward from it. I firmly believe that a person is not their mistakes. A person is what they do to fix those mistakes. If you are committed to this new you, you have to release the hold that the actions of the old you has. The past is over and what’s done is done. Close that door with all the regret, shame, guilt, pain, and sadness that came with it. Open yourself completely up to this new door , this new chapter, this new clean slate by releasing and letting go of the ropes of regret. Thank you so much for reading. Share this post with your friends, family, social media, or anyone who needs help to learn to flow with life. Also if you haven’t already subscribe via email with the button below so you never miss any updates. If you don’t check your email on a regular basis , my blog also has an official instagram “ @speakwithloveblog “ you can follow me on there to also see all of my blog topics and updates. Enjoy the rest of your day. Remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕✨

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