So This is Love ?

3.10.23

I got an email the other day from a new subscriber who brought to my attention that my blogs name is Speak with Love, and I’ve yet to speak about love. I found that hilarious, because I’ve spoken about self love, loving mistakes, loving your dreams, love in every other aspect, but relationships. I feel that this is partially because my views on relationships and love aren’t the same as most women my age. You look up love in the dictionary, and it will say “ An intense feeling of deep affection “ . Thats completely untrue. To me, love is choice that invokes all those amazing feelings wrapped up into it. Everyday that your with this person you choose to love them. So you care for them. You admire them. You want to get to know more of them. You want to share your life with them. That’s love. See in this society we live in now, people don’t understand that sometimes love is also arguments. Love is difficult conversations. Love is being so completely annoyed at this one person but still know you don’t want to go to sleep without them.Love can bring out the worst in you. Although you’ll know if it’s real love , when you have a partner who has saw the worst in you and still is right by your side , working with you, coating all your flaws in their love making them just as beautiful as your connection. Now that’s love.See I am a lover girl. I believe all the good things in life stem from love. Another reason why I talk mainly about self love and being one with who you are is because if you go into a relationship before you know all of yourself , you’ll never have the full capacity to understand someone else. Which is needed in a relationship. Unless you are with a partner who has that capability you will spend the whole relationship explaining your heart, it’s desires, and all your needs to someone who never will understand because they can’t understand their own. You can only love others as much as you love yourself. Now don’t get that confused with being fully healed before you go into a relationship. I firmly believe that you can heal on many levels by yourself, but there’s also some things only love can fix. Just like people who want to live life alone and don’t see the value or quality of building and growing with a significant other. There are many accomplishments you can achieve and a lot of doors you can open alone. Although, there may be much bigger doors waiting to be opened in your life, but those ones have two locks. You need two keys. In a true building partnership, you meet this person at a certain level, and then it’s your connection that will take you to places you never even thought of. You never heard of a construction or contract person. No it’s always a team. Sharing real love inflicts so much growth inside you and your partner. They teach you and help build you and vice versa. I think that’s the beautiful thing about marriage. We’re making a commitment to do that for the rest of our lives. You know for sure that you will always have someone who is never giving up on your or your prosperity in life. Now that I’m thinking about it. The true reason why I’ve strayed from talking about this is because I can go on for hours. Love is one of the most beautiful things on this earth. To pick someone and get to know all of them. The good and the bad and still make a conscious choice every day to be the sun in their life. That’s real love though. In todays world of sneaky links, getting your lick back , having a roster. All of the traditional views of love get so lost. I don’t know about any of the other women who subscribe to my blog , but I want to get married. That’s where all real love leads to, because when it’s real love it can never end. After experiencing the things I have in this world , I fully believe that’s what made me fall so in love with love. The world showed me so much hate , sadness, and pain. I didn’t want to settle for that. So I went looking for something that’s beautiful , kind, and brings me happiness. I found love. Now whether you are in a relationship or single. You will always have love in your life don’t get that confused, but sharing love with another person will always be magical. That’s why it’s very crucial to pray for your discernment and your intuition and to have the true colors of people revealed as they come in to your life so you know if this person is truly someone you can grow with. Now I’m not saying that to say if someone does you wrong you should break up with them. The most beautiful thing about love is that it’s unconditional. Your partners darkest thought. Their worst action. They’re still deserving of love. Even in the Bible it says “ Most important of all , continue to show deep love for each other , for love covers a multitude of sins”. Real love can never fade away. What’s meant to be will always be , no matter what evil has tried to come between your relationship. Speaking of evil, now that I’ve talked all about love and what it looks like. Let me share some things that someone who is supposedly making the choice to love you will not do to you. They won’t harm you mentally, physically, or spiritually. They will not gaslight or manipulate your feelings in any way. They will not be disloyal to you. People get so confused and say they’d rather have loyalty over love. When in reality, people are the most loyal and committed to you when they’re choosing to love you. Someone who loves you will never make you feel less than or that you are too much. The right man or woman will always see you as the perfect person for them. Most importantly someone who loves you , will never give up you, even when the whole world is trying to give them a reason to. I really hope you got something from todays post. I think this was actually one of my favorites to talk about so far. I just love love. Hopefully one day I’ll get my ring , and I’m wishing one for every woman subscribed as well lol. Share this post with your friends, family ,on social media, or with anyone who you think might need some love today. Thank you so much for reading and if you haven’t already please subscribe so you’ll never miss any new updates to my blog. Enjoy the rest of your day and remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕 ✨

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