“ Fine.I’m The Bad Guy “

3.17.23

I saw a quote the other day that said “ pack up your truth and head out “. That is quite literally the biggest sign of being in tune with self. Being okay with the other person or people never seeing or understanding your perspective. That’s why it is so crucial that you take the time to get to learn and understand your authentic self. When you are fully aware of who you are and have a conscious awareness of your thoughts and intentions regarding everything you do , no one will ever be able to tell you who you are. I’ve been in situations where the ones closest to me have turned their backs on me in the cruelest way possible. In their story I just may be the bad guy. I am okay with that because I don’t even care to read their books. A wise woman once said “ never waste your time explaining who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you“ . Someone else’s perception of you is not your responsibility. That one was of the best lessons I got to learn. It’s so freeing to know that you truly do not have to care about what people think of you. If you spend your whole life listening and trying to change what other people say or think about you, you will spend your whole life pleasing everyone but yourself. The best response to someone trying to tell you who you are is “ okay” . Let them make their own assumptions. You can’t spell assumptions without “ ass” and that’s exactly what they’ve made of themselves. Not only because they’ve shown the fact that they are incapable of seeing things from a perspective other than their own. Also because now you have lost your relationship with me. Be okay with letting people talk while you walk across that bridge and then watch it burn. It’s okay if people hate you or don’t like you because guess what ? Majority of them deep down don’t even like themselves and who they truly are. I have been called every name in the book and talked down on by friends and family. My response is the same every time “ okay” . Not that what they said is okay. If you feel called to stand up for yourself that’s most definitely up to you. I’m saying don’t give people your power or energy trying to change THEIR point of view of YOU. If you are in tune with who you are and love every inch of you it truly should not matter who is on your team. At the end of the day the trash will always take itself out and make room for the people in your life who are meant to be there. People who will see the good in you even if you have hurt their feelings. People who are healed enough internally to be able to see two sides to every situation. We were all probably raised to never let family relationships or important friendships go. To always fix it . I’m here to tell you that is complete B.S. Never again will I nor should you be the “ bigger person “ and get someone to understand who you are. Sometimes being the “ bigger person “ requires you to be the boundary-less person and that doesn’t fly over here. What I really hope you’ve taken from this post is only work on and care about your CHARACTER, that is who you are and how you show up in the world. Your REPUTATION is made up by other people and quite literally means nothing. So stop caring what people think. Let them think they have you all figured out. Do what you want. Say what you want. Live however you want, and if that makes you the bad guy …..FINE ! I hope you took something from todays post. Share it with your friends, family, social media, or whoever needs help coming to peace with being the villain. Thank you so much for reading and if you haven’t already subscribe via email with the button below so you never miss any updates. If you don’t check your email on a regular basis , my blog also has an official instagram “ @speakwithloveblog “ you can follow me on there to also see all of my blog topics and updates. Enjoy the rest of your day. Remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕✨

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