“Scream It. Don’t Suppress it”

3.19.23

One of the most powerful things that I hold so highly is my voice. My whole life I was told that I talk to much , or that what I said didn’t matter. As I grew older I believed it. That my feelings didn’t matter, what I had to say didn’t matter. As an adult we need to learn to be vocal about our wants, needs, emotions, and feelings. Growing up in a black household, one of the most common traumas I’m sure that we can all share is not having a safe space to express ourselves. Unless we take the time to fix that or heal that, then we will have black men and women who have a prideful nonchalant mindset. The men and women who live their lives just holding everything in , not because they don’t have anything to say , but because they’re afraid no one will care. Or that when they do express themselves no one will be able to understand. As maturing evolving adults it’s up to us to create our own safe spaces. To learn to use our voices. Even if your voice shakes while you talk , SPEAK! When I was depressed I didn’t tell anyone and I don’t regret that but I do wish I was strong enough to tell someone instead of writing everything in a journal. When I was getting abused by my ex , I wrote all my words down in my notes instead of speaking them. I let my tears do the talking for me. That is no way to live. So when it came time where I was done suppressing everything, I just screamed. Screamed how I was feeling, screamed because I was angry, screamed because I was so fed up , screamed because I had been silent for so long. You have to know that your voice is your superpower. That’s why I love this blog so much. It’s a way for me to use my voice. It not only helps y’all as my readers , but it’s for me as well. Growing up in certain environments I can completely relate to a default setting of bottling everything up inside, but that’s just not healthy. When you hold things in you will never be able to move forward in life. Everything will begin to add up and weigh you down. The reality is even if you have never had that safe space to express yourself growing up , you will never know if you have it now in your everyday life, if you don’t just speak up. You’ll never know the power your voice has unless you use it. Most don’t even realize that their natural reaction to just “ stay silent and keep going on with life “ is a trauma response. It’s up to us as healing changing adults to work on those things so that we can have functioning adult relationships and friendships. As someone who has had relationships with other individuals who act that way I know how hard it may be. You have to know though, that once you hear the sound and strength of your own voice you will never go quiet again. No matter what the situation is , when you have all these suppressed feelings, thoughts, and emotions all you’re doing is creating voices in your head that will block you from ever having your own clarity. You have to let yourself express all that you’re are feeling. The first part of healing is feeling. If you have to start with screaming at the top of your lungs everything you’ve been holding inside, whether it’s at someone or just into the air , do just that. I’m just here to let you know that you will never heal just by pretending that it doesn’t hurt. Cry out loud, let the whole world hear you, so that you can heal you. Suppressing will always lead to more internal stress making your life harder. Nothing inside will ever go away unless you speak it and let it out.Don’t be afraid of the roar of your own voice because I promise there is nothing scarier then living a stressful anxiety filled life where your mind never has peace because you choose not to speak up. If you need help overcoming your fears please refer back to my previous blog post titled, “ Everything You Want is on The Other Side” . I am a firm believer, especially because I’ve experienced it firsthand, the more you ignore and suppress your emotions and thoughts, the stronger they become. When I was so angry at my ex every day and I stayed quiet. The internal anger I had towards him started to come on to me just because I was withholding all of it. I wasn’t just angry at him anymore I was angry at myself. Until I just screamed it all out and I felt so free and I truly felt nothing. I knew that’s what peace was like. Finally having an empty mind. A lot of times especially the stronger the emotion is , a default response can be just to pack it all up and hope it disappears, but that’s one hundred percent rooted in fear. Use your voice. Let it roar. Scream. I can’t be the writer of a blog called “ Speak With Love” and not tell my readers that their voice matters. How you feel matters. Your emotions matter. Whoever said otherwise was wrong, and it’s up to you to take that leap of faith and just let it all out to show yourself that what I’m saying is the truth. I hope you took something from this post. The motto to remember is, FEEL IT. FACE IT. RELEASE IT. Share this post with your friends, family, social media, or whoever needs help letting all the emotions free. Thank you so much for reading and if you haven’t already subscribe via email with the button below so you never miss any updates. If you don’t check your email on a regular basis , my blog also has an official instagram “ @speakwithloveblog “ you can follow me on there to also see all of my blog topics and updates. Enjoy the rest of your day. Remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕✨

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