3.3.23

Ghandi says “ The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong “ . See to truly forgive someone you have to be able to come outside yourself and see the situation from another perspective. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with what the person did to wrong you, but just being able to acknowledge how they were feeling will do wonders for you. Forgiveness is always for you more than it is the other person. See unless you forgive , you will still be tied to that person or situation. Which leads me into todays topic of forgiveness , but not forgetting. See in a lot of black households , the parent will wrong the child and 9 times out of 10 they won’t even apologize. When they do, we just act like it never happened because they’re our parent, they provide. As we grow older into adults though , it affects how we accept apologies, and how we move forward after conflict in our relationships. One of the best things I’ve done for myself was learn to forgive without an apology, and learning to forgive, but not allowing that person back into my life. Now most relationships can always be rekindled. Although, some people have a lot of healing in their own life to be done. So it’s up to us as adults responsible for our own peace and clear heart to forgive that person for treating us the way they felt about themselves. Not everyone needs a second chance. Not everyone deserves a second chance. It’s all about being able to use your discernment to be able to distinguish between the two. The main point is, even if what they did was so wrong, forgiveness is still important. It even says it in the Bible “ if you refuse to forgive others , your father will not forgive your sins “ . We as people are not perfect and yes all the time people in our lives can make mistakes. I’ve just made it a new habit to not allow people to make the same mistakes anymore, and that’s okay. “ Forgiveness is not putting the weapons down , it’s about learning to kiss the person who’s finger is on the trigger. Don’t allow them to pick up the gun again.It became easy to forgive when I did it out of self love. It’s not for them , it’s not even for my relationship with that person. It’s all for me, my soul, conscious, and heart. Because at the end of the day , that is more important than any grudge , resentment, or anxieties. Now I’m not coming on here telling y’all to give up on family, your significant others, or your closest friends. I’m just here to let you know that if your intuition and your discernment is telling you it’s time. It’s okay to do so, even if you forgive them. You can most certainly forgive and move forward , but that doesn’t allow that person re-entry into your life. That would go into boundaries which will be the topic of my next blog post. It’s okay to be firm with someone else and let them know your relationship will no longer be moving forward. Make yourself clear. I hope you took something from this post. Share it with your friends, family, social media, or someone who you know would need to hear this. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day and remember to speak bold , bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕

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