“ It’s Rare, but Always Remembered

3.31.23

Unconditional. Meaning simply , without conditions. You can have this thing , person, or what ever it is. No matter what you say, what you do, or who you are. Getting things as you are isn’t that rare. That can happen all the time. Like a job or something. Although, someone loving you without conditions. Just as you are. That’s completely rare. Once you have it , you will never forget it or want to let it go. I’ve spoken about love before once on this blog, but never divulged in the aspect of how real it is when it’s unconditional. To love someone unconditionally is to see all of them. When they’re angry, sad, happy, confused, everything, and still show them love. To see their worst action, to hear their darkest thought, and still love them. You’ll know if it’s really unconditional if that worst action or darkest thought was directed towards you, and you still love them. That’s the funny thing about love. When it’s real, it’s unconditional, and it never goes away. It’s love without limits. I’ve had someone I’ve loved unconditionally before, and I still do love him. It’ll never change. Although what you learn as you mature is that your love for someone can be without conditions, but their presence in your life that can have conditions. THAT NEEDS CONDITIONS. What I have come to understand is that even if you will always have love for this person it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t set boundaries, that you shouldn’t tolerate less than what you deserve, and most importantly that you can’t live without them. You can find unconditional love not just in relationships, but also family and friends. It’s just something that a lot of people take for granted. Which is a shame because it’s something so rare. To have someone no matter what you do or who you are always love you. Someone that cares about you because you’re you. No hidden agenda or ulterior motives. They just want to see you succeed, encourage you to grow, wants to clean up the mess with you. Be grateful for those people in your life that love you in that way. The first person who taught me unconditional love was my mom. As I was growing up and even when I moved out I know there were times when I hurt her , and times when she has told me that “ I broke her heart “ and she still loves me and supports me til this very day, that woman has never left my side and I will always be grateful for that because I know that not everyone gets to experience love in that way. There’sa quote that says “ love is never wasted, for its value does not rest on reciprocity “ . When someone unconditionally loves they aren’t looking for what you can do for them but only focusing on how they can make you feel loved. I think one of the best things I’m glad I know from growing up in a religious family,is that god will always unconditionally love you too. I have made mistakes. Sometimes I was the villain. Even through all of that he still loves me. He still blesses me . He has never judged me or turned me away. That’s why I live my life the way that I do. Unconditional love is our default, but sometimes life gets in the way of us seeing that. If you feel like that’s you. I mean no matter who you are , what you become, or what you say/do you’ll always love yourself right?Pay attention to that. If you have trouble giving unconditional love to others , keep giving it to yourself and you will subconsciously be teaching yourself how to do the same for others. The bottom line is I am one of those people who mess up sometimes, but I also know others make messes too. I am someone who has hurt others, and I know people hurt people too. Above all of that, I will never judge someone in my life or deny them of love because it’s important to love people unconditionally just as god has for us. Just don’t let that unconditional love for someone keep you in a relationship where you aren’t feeling loved. No matter how much you love someone you still come first always. You have to have unconditional self love before you can love someone else. I’ll close with this, unconditional love is one of the most rarest things because it makes the other person feel free. Free to be exactly who they want to be and still know that they will always have someone loving them just the way that they are. So once you have that never let that go or I promise you , you will live your whole life reminiscing because it’s something you will always remember. Thank you so much for reading. Share this post with your friends, family, social media, or anyone who needs a little bit of love in their day today.Also if you haven’t already subscribe via email with the button below so you never miss any updates. If you don’t check your email on a regular basis , my blog also has an official instagram “ @speakwithloveblog “ you can follow me on there to also see all of my blog topics and updates. Enjoy the rest of your day. Remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly speak with love 💕✨

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