“ Everything You Want is on The Other Side

3.8.23

Jack Canfield said “ Everything you want is on the other side of fear “ . The day that I got my ex sent to jail for abusing me, I knew I had to say something because I didn’t want that for my life anymore. I was scared though, terrified.Scared that the cops wouldn’t believe me. Scared that he would hurt me before they got there. Scared that he would get out that same night and kill me like he’s said so many times before. Scared to stand up for myself. Scared to speak up. Then it happened, and I wasn’t so scared anymore.What I’ve learned over time is that when something scares you it’s because you’re about to do something really really brave. Your fears have no idea how strong you really are on the inside. I was practically shaking telling the police what happened. I still did it though. Even if your fear isn’t as terrible as sending your abuser to jail, still do it. The reality is fear is not something that ever goes away , it only gets bigger unless you chase it away with courage. Do what you want to do scared. You’re still doing it ! When you finish that task, speech, interview , or whatever you’ll realize you had nothing be afraid of to begin with. If you are looking to start something and have been putting it off because of fear, just start it. Change your mindset from “ what’s the worse that can happen ?”, to “ what’s the best that can happen ? “ . Don’t even let yourself think that you have to plan out each step to something. That over-planning or overthinking is rooted in fear. Just do it. Do it with no support. Do it with tears in your eyes. Do it with no clear vision of how it’s going to play out. Do it with no back up plan. Most importantly, do it for you, because fear is you telling yourself no before anyone ever could. When I left home at 17, I was scared , but I knew I wanted to leave home. So I took a leap of faith and I caught the first train out of there. Notice how I said leap of faith and not a risk. What do you have to lose ? Is it not something that you want ?Have faith that what you want will be right there waiting for you to get it on the other side of your fears. I wrote about being afraid to set boundaries in my last post. The sad reality is people are scared of a lot more than that. As people living in an ever-changing earth and society. Growth is crucial. Not for the sake of keeping up with others, growth is important to keep up with who god calls you to be in each season. When I was with my ex, as wild as it may sound , I was comfortable. The me that I was in that season was comfortable with my routine. Was even comfortable with the abuse. I had already learned how to manage that lifestyle so going for something different scared me to the core. When I overcame that fear though, what came after was even better than I thought it would be. When people ask me why I built my own relationship with God after growing up in a Jehovah’s Witness household. I tell them it’s because I needed something a whole lot bigger than myself to give me faith. So that I am have courage to overcome any fear , doubt, or worry that came my way. Whether you believe in God, allah , universe, source, Buddha, higher self, whoever! You have to have faith in them and yourself in order to have courage, and you will never overcome any fears without courage. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “ “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” The strongest of those three is love. It’s a reason why I am a woman so in love with love and why this blog is called Speak with Love. Love is so powerful ! Let love be stronger than any fear you have today, this week, or this month. Let your love for the dream you’re going after, the person you want to talk to , the move you’ve been waiting to long to make, the video you’ve been waiting so long to post be a WHOLE lot stronger and filled with more faith then any fears that may come your way. Remember that everything that you want, wants you just as bad if not more. Don’t let fear keep you behind a door that god already has given you the key too . I hope you took something from todays post. Fear is something that we all go through and it’s something that everyone can always use some help fighting. If you would life to know more about my story and fears I’ve had to overcome, click the “ Why I Am Who I Am “ tab on my website. Thank you so much for reading ,and if you haven’t please subscribe so you’ll get email updates whenever a new post is made. Share this post with your friends, family , social media, or whoever you think it may help. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day and remember to speak bold, speak bright, and most importantly Speak with Love 💕 ✨

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