Speak with Love 💕

“If it Makes Me a B**ch, okay “

11.15.21

No no no no no no no ! Learn to say no ! Over the past two weeks I have been learning more about myself and the ones around me. I even had the opportunity to see my aunt and during one of our discussions I heard her say “ It took me a long time to learn that. I didn’t learn until I was 40 “. They were discussing the topic of learning to say no. Now some aren’t afraid to say no to a stranger. Can you say no to someone you love ? Say no to someone you used to love ? Can you say no to your certain situation? See, saying no isn’t just a response to a question, it’s a decree. Showing whoever and whatever that this is not what I deserve. I am worthy of more and better. What most don’t realize is that whatever we allow , will continue. It is our right to be happy in whatever we do. So when you feel like it no longer serves you or disturbs you SAY NO. The ability to deny what we won’t accept is a huge part in boundaries, which is a huge thing that we have to work on. It’s is okay to say no to that conversation. Tell that job that 15.00 per hour is not enough. You can deny someone’s need for an explanation. Say no to your friend because you need space by yourself right now. Tell that meeting “ no 9am is not okay , because I’m sleeping in tomorrow. “ Do not be afraid of coming across as aggressive, hostile, or mean. As a black woman, these are already stereotypes that people think of me, and I DO NOT CARE ! Like Madonna said “ I’m tough, I’m ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay. “ So if your wondering what to take from this post, it’s to say NO !!! Now I hope you enjoy the rest of your day and remember to speak with love 💕- Alaina Marie